A news item today says that while the recession takes hold in the U.S. because of the housing market slump, there is an increase in marriage breakdowns. A divorce lawyer is quoted as saying: "One client was worried his wife might leave him if she found out that his net worth ahd fallen from $U.S.20 million to $8 million after he huge losses on property and other investments." It sounds almost beyond belief, but this is a respectable news paper, not a scandal rag.Then a psychotherapist comments:
"...money can become an addiction that masks the reality. When that goes, reality has to be faced and accusations start flying."
Certain things never get learned, it seems. The saying 'money can't buy happiness' is old and considered corny by some people, and yet it seems to be true.
Wouldn't a person be embarrassed at their exposure as such a bare-faced gold-digger? Apparently not.
So how does a relationship even start between people if it's going to fall apart just because they can't paper over all their problems in life with big spending? What happened to love? Perhaps it was never really there; yet it seemed to be, so...?
Sentimentality aside, it could be that some people never learn what love is. They've never known proper love. A child that does not hear people speak does not learn to speak. A child who is never loved never learns what it really is to love.
If that sounds appalling, ask the question: does every parent love their child, or do some of them nurture their child and treat them possessively, and control them in the process? They teach them, or drive them, to achieve, and to get things for themselves, but not to feel accepted and cared about unconditionally. Even saying this gets a groan nowadays from a cynical society. It's not exactly profound, because it's been said before, long ago. The trouble is, people are not learning.
There are still people who do not have any use for other people except their own gain. No matter how often it's said, that greed and selfishness are ugly and self-destructive, they still rear their heads in the lives of people all around us. What does it take for people to learn?
I've had to ask myself, too: how good is my heart? How much can I give without wanting something in return?